Tips For Achieving Your Desired Outcomes
(How to get a win/win)

Okay, so here we are, ready to talk about striving towards a win/win outcome for whatever the issue may be that causes you concern. Here are a few tips that will greatly enhance your chances of achieving your desired outcome:

1. Be clear about what it is you actually wish to achieve - have a goal in mind.

Assertiveness Cautions

Having discussed in the last couple of posts the importance of assertiveness and how you can go about learning vital assertiveness skills, it is now important that you become aware of some assertiveness cautions:

Caution 1: EXPECT RESISTANCE WHEN YOU FIRST START BEING ASSERTIVE:

When you become assertive, you start taking control of your own life. This means that you are taking control back from the people you have either given it to or have allowed to take it from you. As this will be new and unexpected for them they may initially resist this process. Although this will be uncomfortable for you and possibly will shake your determination, remember that the only person who SHOULD be in control over you is YOU and that you are doing no more than taking back what was meant to be yours all along.

Assertiveness - a learnable communication skill

Continuing from last week’s topic of assertiveness, we’ll look at some essential assertiveness skills today.

1. Respect yourself

You are valuable, have something to offer and have a right to your opinion.

State your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and needs in an honest, non-apologetic and direct way. Do not expect others to share them and realise that whether others agree or is no a measure of your worth.