Ø
Little or no understanding or recognition of your own or
other people’s boundaries.
Ø
Getting
your sense of value through self-sacrifice and by caring for
others.
Ø
Constantly ignoring your own needs in favour of others’
needs.
Ø
Being
invested in being the peacemaker.
Ø
Not
speaking up for yourself.
Ø
Frequently feeling overwhelmed and pressured by other’s
demands.
Ø
Saying
“yes” to things you don’t want to do. Focusing on everyone
else’s problems whilst ignoring your own.
Ø
“Rescuing” and “fixing” others.
Ø
Feeling
like a martyr: “I am doing all this for them and they don’t
even appreciate it”.
Ø
Thinking
that: “If I don’t do it, nobody will”.
Ø
Feeling
very anxious if you perceive that you are out of control of
a situation.
Ø
Not
knowing what you really want, need or like and always
looking towards others to determine this for you.
Ø
Having no
sense of self.
Ø
Needing
other’s approval to feel okay about yourself. Allowing
others to take advantage of you.
Ø
Feeling
trapped in situations you don’t like to be in but having no
idea of how to get out of them.
Ø
Lacking
the ability to self-care – believing that it’s another’s job
to care for you, nurture and rescue you.
Ø
Lacking
self-responsibility – you perceive your problems to be
caused by someone else.
Ø
Frequent
feelings of unhappiness.
Ø
Allowing
others to control and manipulate you.
Ø
Being
unable to ask for help.
Ø
Being
unable to deal with criticism (obsessing about it, feeling
unfairly blamed and having a desperate need to “get even”).
Ø
Feeling
uncontrollable anger, hatred and rage.
Ø
Feeling
used, abused and victimized.
Ø
Often
feeling out of control of your life.
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